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Halloween in Times Square

living one night a year as someone else

Wading through mobs of boisterous, costumed, Halloween millennials in Times Square , I was struck by the sameness of the disguises chosen by each gender. Females as gossamer-winged fairies, purring pussy cats, schoolgirls in Mary Janes and white knee highs; males as gladiators, pirates, and Indian chiefs. And, of course, many other personas. What struck me was a general choice of extreme gender expression: men as ultra-macho, women as super femme. Why might this be so ? Looking at women today (in NYC, at least), they often appear to be gender-neutered in their dress: such as utilitarian stretch pants, unflattering ankle-high booties or neon-colored running shoes, and so forth..a denial of the traditional attributes of the Fair Sex. Is it the androgynous, gender non-discrimination of the Digital Age..or the boring reality of anonymous work in ever-larger corporations ? Whatever the cause, today’s culture seems to repress gender individuality…and, thus, to downsize the time and the space in which to express the unique Boy or Girl within. So, sadly, just one night a year, these young folks let it all hang out. A sad situation !!

Which leads to the transgender world you and I inhabit. We are blessed !! Somehow, we have identified our (other) femme self..and, to a greater or lesser degree, we’ve let it happen: a lot more than one night a year. So..sit back..relax..and count your blessings !

Your comments are welcome !


About cdinyc2012

Crossdressers International Incorporated is a member-supported adult transgendered group focused on support and social activities, serving the New York City metropolitan area. CDI is qualified as a non-profit corporation under section 501(c) 7 of the federal tax code. In the beginning, as stated in “Our History”, our founders envisioned CDI to be an all inclusive, welcoming haven for those seeking to come to terms with their transgendered nature. While the majority of our members and friends identify as cross dressers, we have served as a refuge for those who identify as transsexual, drag queen, and gender queer as well. Historically, our focus has been on the m-f crossdresser/transgendered. However, we do welcome those who identify from the f-m experience. While many of our members are long time comfortable with their transgender identity, we have never lost sight that our basic mission is to stand ready to provide a welcoming sanctuary for those who are taking their very first steps of self discovery. We know from our own experience that this can be a frightening time for those who have been closeted. The fear of loss of family, friends, employment, and standing in ones community can be overwhelming. And all for merely being gender different. Even today in our changing times the fear of discovery, ridicule, and worse can be terrifying for those who are attempting to safely practice their gender expression. WE are here for you. We make no claims of being “expert” in any matters, yet through our individual and collective experience we are highly knowledgeable. CDI also serves as a resource center where we can direct you to qualified professionals should that be desired. In short, we believe that groups like ours help to save lives. Sometimes just a welcoming smile and spoken kindness can be enough to assure someone (and maybe that’s you!) that they are not alone. For whatever reason each of us were dealt this hand from birth. For years many of us have considered it a curse. At CDI we believe that once liberated from the isolation of the closet that in time you will come to see your own transgenderism as a “gift”. So whether experienced or not, come - We welcome you, and we exist for you!

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