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CDI Moves to a new Manhattan Location after 17 years !!

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This week CDI gets a face-lift and all of us girls are not only better for it, we are all safer and better protected. There is a new game in town predicated exactly on the old one and all that we have come to know will be so much better in the long run. A safer location, better parking and more restaurants in midtown to choose from. What more can a girl ask for? A safer refuge made up of girls supporting each other in every way. I’m sure most people would all call that a win win.

I was just reminiscing about the past four years and my experiences with this wonderful organization. I first became a girl in the late spring of 2011. It was a totally unexpected transformation, but most welcomed. An incredible moment in time: one that changed my life forever, never to regret. I moved quickly after dressing for the first time and was led to CDI by a friend who I found on line within the first week. I reached out to the group after a brief on line look. Nancy answered the call, “Come on down this Wed to our weekly barbecue and you can change at one of our stations.” She was so warm and nurturing almost like a mother hen. I thought I was dreaming that such a place existed, or could exist in NYC. I’ll never forget how gracious and kind she was as a fledgling dresser. Nancy made me feel at home as did all the girls I encountered at that beautiful spring night barbecue.

The parties, festive times and barbecues, which were all part of the old CDI, won’t really change except for how the food is cooked and eaten. Considering how difficult and prejudiced the city of New York still is toward girls like us, we should all be ecstatic that we still have our dream oasis, our safe refuge from the outside world. Fifteen dollars a week can never begin to pay for all CDI has given me. In short, I learned to become a confident girl; from dressing there each week to eventually strutting in on my own fully dressed. None of this was an accident. Like most things in life it was hard work, molded by the group to become Dalana, the girl I am today. CDI gave me wings and now I can fly as a transgendered woman. In our darkness and struggle to become girls, CDI is our brightest light.

Let us take a moment as we begin a new chapter in this amazing journey. It is a wondrous story, far greater than any of us could write. We are the characters that drive this plot. The themes are universal, always important and filled with knowledge, applied with unconditional love. I look forward with jubilant excitement, the future, and what it holds for us all. Thank you for letting me, be me. In my heart and soul I thank you all forever.



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About cdinyc2012

Crossdressers International Incorporated is a member-supported adult transgendered group focused on support and social activities, serving the New York City metropolitan area. CDI is qualified as a non-profit corporation under section 501(c) 7 of the federal tax code. In the beginning, as stated in “Our History”, our founders envisioned CDI to be an all inclusive, welcoming haven for those seeking to come to terms with their transgendered nature. While the majority of our members and friends identify as cross dressers, we have served as a refuge for those who identify as transsexual, drag queen, and gender queer as well. Historically, our focus has been on the m-f crossdresser/transgendered. However, we do welcome those who identify from the f-m experience. While many of our members are long time comfortable with their transgender identity, we have never lost sight that our basic mission is to stand ready to provide a welcoming sanctuary for those who are taking their very first steps of self discovery. We know from our own experience that this can be a frightening time for those who have been closeted. The fear of loss of family, friends, employment, and standing in ones community can be overwhelming. And all for merely being gender different. Even today in our changing times the fear of discovery, ridicule, and worse can be terrifying for those who are attempting to safely practice their gender expression. WE are here for you. We make no claims of being “expert” in any matters, yet through our individual and collective experience we are highly knowledgeable. CDI also serves as a resource center where we can direct you to qualified professionals should that be desired. In short, we believe that groups like ours help to save lives. Sometimes just a welcoming smile and spoken kindness can be enough to assure someone (and maybe that’s you!) that they are not alone. For whatever reason each of us were dealt this hand from birth. For years many of us have considered it a curse. At CDI we believe that once liberated from the isolation of the closet that in time you will come to see your own transgenderism as a “gift”. So whether experienced or not, come - We welcome you, and we exist for you!

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