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Gender Awakening-Michelle II

I recently sent in submission for the CDI Bulletin suggesting that some of you might be interested in reading a book called “In One Person” by John Irving. I would like to share with you three concepts from the book that I found very interesting. The main character in the book is bisexual. In an of itself, that is an interesting concept. Unless a person actually is bisexual, most of the rest of the world believes that there is no such thing as a bisexual. It seems that the general opinion is that they are not really bisexual, but only people who have not come to terms with being gay, lesbian, or straight. This is the first book that I am aware of that actually supports the fact that there really are bisexual people. By the way, I once went to a therapist who was convinced that she could cure me of my desire to cross dress. However, she also believed that we are all bisexual, to at least to some degree. Otherwise why would so many “straight ” people take part in gay sex while in prison. If this book ever becomes a movie, which some of John Irving’s books have been, and I hope it will, I think that it will help us all be a bit more accepted by society. Another concept that I found interesting was how can a bisexual person be monogamous? I am sure that I am not the only one that has struggled with those desires over the course of my life time, along with wanting to be faithful to my spouse. That concept put it in a different perspective for me. The other concept that I found interesting was the complex concept of all us being judged for who we are, depending upon how we present ourselves. One of the last lines of the book references a quote from earlier in the book, when the central character meets someone that he thinks is a woman, but eventually finds out is a man living as a woman. That person had said to him, “My dear boy, don’t put a label on me—don’t make me a category before you get to know me”. At the end of the book, the main character uses that phrase to respond to someone calling him a bisexual, and a switch hitter. We are all different in many ways, and all the same in many ways. Why must we all find it necessary to categorize, identify, and pigeon hole ourselves. Why can’t we call just learn to embrace, and even enjoy our differences, instead of persecuting people for being different. I would be interested to see how some of you feel about these concepts.


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Crossdressers International Incorporated is a member-supported adult transgendered group focused on support and social activities, serving the New York City metropolitan area. CDI is qualified as a non-profit corporation under section 501(c) 7 of the federal tax code. In the beginning, as stated in “Our History”, our founders envisioned CDI to be an all inclusive, welcoming haven for those seeking to come to terms with their transgendered nature. While the majority of our members and friends identify as cross dressers, we have served as a refuge for those who identify as transsexual, drag queen, and gender queer as well. Historically, our focus has been on the m-f crossdresser/transgendered. However, we do welcome those who identify from the f-m experience. While many of our members are long time comfortable with their transgender identity, we have never lost sight that our basic mission is to stand ready to provide a welcoming sanctuary for those who are taking their very first steps of self discovery. We know from our own experience that this can be a frightening time for those who have been closeted. The fear of loss of family, friends, employment, and standing in ones community can be overwhelming. And all for merely being gender different. Even today in our changing times the fear of discovery, ridicule, and worse can be terrifying for those who are attempting to safely practice their gender expression. WE are here for you. We make no claims of being “expert” in any matters, yet through our individual and collective experience we are highly knowledgeable. CDI also serves as a resource center where we can direct you to qualified professionals should that be desired. In short, we believe that groups like ours help to save lives. Sometimes just a welcoming smile and spoken kindness can be enough to assure someone (and maybe that’s you!) that they are not alone. For whatever reason each of us were dealt this hand from birth. For years many of us have considered it a curse. At CDI we believe that once liberated from the isolation of the closet that in time you will come to see your own transgenderism as a “gift”. So whether experienced or not, come - We welcome you, and we exist for you!

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