I just read an inspiring article regarding problems – “Switch, Don’t Solve”. The crux of the article was that you should not look at the problem. Look for something that works (the article called it “a bright spot”) and apply it. We all do that now in many cases, but the article made me think of how I can use this “awakened” idea. I don’t have problems anymore (lol), but my transgender community has a common problem (I wish it was only one). It is a very serious problem. Many of us eventually need to tell someone we love – a grandparent, a parent, a wife, a child or someone else – about our secret.
I found telling my children (my wife died 2 decades ago) to be the most difficult thing I ever dealt with. After 7 months, I still think of it with tears in my eyes, because I literally cried every time I thought about telling my kids for 2 weeks before I actually did. Of course, success depends on all parties, but how you do it impacts the result. It is a highly emotional experience and we need to apply successful methods.
I have read some postings that told of both how well it turned out or how poorly it ended. However, the “methods” used were not described. I feel that as a community we should share these successes as we do for where to get femme services, etc. I have been doing research and written several pages on the subject, but I am no expert and I only expressed my opinion. It seems logical, but may only be “hogwash”.
Gender Awakenings- Telling a Loved One