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I’m fascinated by how often people who dress up ask about the friendliness of places for cross dressers, tgurls, etc.

Being gender fluid, I believe I have an unusual perspective about that.

When I’m Gary (guy), or Mikey (gurly boi), I often shop for tgurl Mikelle.

I’ve shopped at Victoria Secret (several times, different locations), Sephora (even more often), and Payless Shoes while dressed as a guy or gurly boi. On Friday, I bought a wig dressed as Gary.

Here are some tips:

If possible, shop in the village, Soho, etc. More open minded down there than say, Park Avenue mid-town.

Look for young female sales people. I’ve found the older people tend to be more rigid and judgmental in their thinking. I’m sure there are exceptions, but I’ve yet to encounter a young female shop keeper who gave me an attitude or was uncooperative.

All of my negative experiences have come from the older set.

When I bought my first bra in Victoria Secret, and the sales girl asked what size, I told her I didn’t have the slightest idea. She asked if it was for my girl friend, and I said “Actually, it’s for me. She gave a little embarrassed giggle, then asked if I wanted to go into a dressing room for her to measure me. I said “It doesn’t matter, and she measured me right in the middle of the floor. She then helped me pick a good bra. I’m a 36A, by the way.

When I bought a wig on Friday, there were two sales girls, one older and one younger. I asked for the younger one’s help. I was trying on short wigs, and the older one was watching. She assumed I was just trying to look younger. When I said I want to look feminine, her attitude became somewhat mocking, but the younger girl was very kind, helpful and found me a really good short wig.

I think kids growing up today are a lot more open-minded sexually and gender-wise. So, why not take advantage of it and not exclude yourself from the pleasure of shopping for things in person.

It’s not the place, it’s the people.

Thanks Mikelle.


About cdinyc2012

Crossdressers International Incorporated is a member-supported adult transgendered group focused on support and social activities, serving the New York City metropolitan area. CDI is qualified as a non-profit corporation under section 501(c) 7 of the federal tax code. In the beginning, as stated in “Our History”, our founders envisioned CDI to be an all inclusive, welcoming haven for those seeking to come to terms with their transgendered nature. While the majority of our members and friends identify as cross dressers, we have served as a refuge for those who identify as transsexual, drag queen, and gender queer as well. Historically, our focus has been on the m-f crossdresser/transgendered. However, we do welcome those who identify from the f-m experience. While many of our members are long time comfortable with their transgender identity, we have never lost sight that our basic mission is to stand ready to provide a welcoming sanctuary for those who are taking their very first steps of self discovery. We know from our own experience that this can be a frightening time for those who have been closeted. The fear of loss of family, friends, employment, and standing in ones community can be overwhelming. And all for merely being gender different. Even today in our changing times the fear of discovery, ridicule, and worse can be terrifying for those who are attempting to safely practice their gender expression. WE are here for you. We make no claims of being “expert” in any matters, yet through our individual and collective experience we are highly knowledgeable. CDI also serves as a resource center where we can direct you to qualified professionals should that be desired. In short, we believe that groups like ours help to save lives. Sometimes just a welcoming smile and spoken kindness can be enough to assure someone (and maybe that’s you!) that they are not alone. For whatever reason each of us were dealt this hand from birth. For years many of us have considered it a curse. At CDI we believe that once liberated from the isolation of the closet that in time you will come to see your own transgenderism as a “gift”. So whether experienced or not, come - We welcome you, and we exist for you!

2 responses »

  1. I have had similar shopping experiences. I find younger clerks more helpful and open

  2. bearmountaineerChris

    I’ve also found that younger women are more open about cross dressing and gender fluidity. But one thing of note comes to mind – when I went on vacation this year, I decided to dress androgynously, solely in female clothes. When I shopped at one women’s clothing store, the sales lady said – don’t worry about what you wear in San Francisco – even if you are not bothering with a wig and makeup…. Anything goes there. And it did!!!

    The trick is being confident in yourself – and everything else will fall into line. (Just don’t try this in Pigeon Forge, TN.)


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