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My Husband Betty Video

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I edited this video 4 years ago, prior to coming out and living full time. It was difficult to cut, because my marriage was on the rock, and it proved to be prophetic.

My Husband Betty

I think Alexis is very fortunate to have a seemingly understanding fiancee. Not many relationships can withstand this. We need to proceed with absolute caution, and weigh the possible outcomes. Is it really worth it? Is my cross-dressing so important in my life that I need to share it with my significant other, or is it just a hobby, an occasional thrill that I can do on my own?

I will say woman can tend to be hostile towards their significant other engaging in cross-dressing. Gender is something that makes a partner unique. I think woman tend to feel their femininity is threatened when their husband or boyfriend engage in being “en-femme”.

If it is a very important aspect of a person’s live, they need to be upfront right away, before the years go by, and suddenly a woman is faced with your hidden secret.

My marriage did not survive, and I am still dealing with the ramifications 4 years down the road.

Weigh the risks! Use caution! And for God sake be honest with yourself before you start sharing your life with another person.



About cdinyc2012

Crossdressers International Incorporated is a member-supported adult transgendered group focused on support and social activities, serving the New York City metropolitan area. CDI is qualified as a non-profit corporation under section 501(c) 7 of the federal tax code. In the beginning, as stated in “Our History”, our founders envisioned CDI to be an all inclusive, welcoming haven for those seeking to come to terms with their transgendered nature. While the majority of our members and friends identify as cross dressers, we have served as a refuge for those who identify as transsexual, drag queen, and gender queer as well. Historically, our focus has been on the m-f crossdresser/transgendered. However, we do welcome those who identify from the f-m experience. While many of our members are long time comfortable with their transgender identity, we have never lost sight that our basic mission is to stand ready to provide a welcoming sanctuary for those who are taking their very first steps of self discovery. We know from our own experience that this can be a frightening time for those who have been closeted. The fear of loss of family, friends, employment, and standing in ones community can be overwhelming. And all for merely being gender different. Even today in our changing times the fear of discovery, ridicule, and worse can be terrifying for those who are attempting to safely practice their gender expression. WE are here for you. We make no claims of being “expert” in any matters, yet through our individual and collective experience we are highly knowledgeable. CDI also serves as a resource center where we can direct you to qualified professionals should that be desired. In short, we believe that groups like ours help to save lives. Sometimes just a welcoming smile and spoken kindness can be enough to assure someone (and maybe that’s you!) that they are not alone. For whatever reason each of us were dealt this hand from birth. For years many of us have considered it a curse. At CDI we believe that once liberated from the isolation of the closet that in time you will come to see your own transgenderism as a “gift”. So whether experienced or not, come - We welcome you, and we exist for you!

2 responses »

  1. Rikki,. I had a similar experience. I think women are challenged, jealous of the other woman which is you. It was an intenesly painful experience. Random

    • I was totally surprised by how negative my wife’s feelings were about Veronica…. So I do think you have to be prepared to be surprised, and to understand that the reaction could be quite bad…..Privately, I almost found her discovery of Veronica’s pretty clothes to be hot…..I felt intense pride that I’ve always enjoyed being Veronica. I enjoyed it age 12, and I enjoy it now…..48 years later……

      Hugs to anyone dealing with this problem….


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