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I told my fiancee…..

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It finally happened. My fiancee revealed her true feelings regarding my crossdressing and gender identity. Unfortunately, it wasn’t good. She admitted her extreme dislike of seeing me dressed as a woman and expressing my feminine self. She also talked about her fears of losing the man she fell in love with. Despite my assurances that I do not intend to fully transition, she knows thats its a promise I can’t really make.

However, something positive has come from this revelation. With us working together to keep our relationship going, I have attended my first session with a gender therapist. The experience was wonderful. It felt like a weight has been lifted to be able to talk to someone about my closeted crossdressing and gender identity exploration, which I have been living with for as long as I can remember. The therapist was very knowledgable and helpful. I’m looking forward to the next session to continue gaining more understanding of my transgender journey. This is just the beginning, but I’m already seeing positive signs of my fiancee warming up to the idea that even though the man she loves is transgendered, she still wants to marry and have a future with me.

Thank you so much,


About cdinyc2012

Crossdressers International Incorporated is a member-supported adult transgendered group focused on support and social activities, serving the New York City metropolitan area. CDI is qualified as a non-profit corporation under section 501(c) 7 of the federal tax code. In the beginning, as stated in “Our History”, our founders envisioned CDI to be an all inclusive, welcoming haven for those seeking to come to terms with their transgendered nature. While the majority of our members and friends identify as cross dressers, we have served as a refuge for those who identify as transsexual, drag queen, and gender queer as well. Historically, our focus has been on the m-f crossdresser/transgendered. However, we do welcome those who identify from the f-m experience. While many of our members are long time comfortable with their transgender identity, we have never lost sight that our basic mission is to stand ready to provide a welcoming sanctuary for those who are taking their very first steps of self discovery. We know from our own experience that this can be a frightening time for those who have been closeted. The fear of loss of family, friends, employment, and standing in ones community can be overwhelming. And all for merely being gender different. Even today in our changing times the fear of discovery, ridicule, and worse can be terrifying for those who are attempting to safely practice their gender expression. WE are here for you. We make no claims of being “expert” in any matters, yet through our individual and collective experience we are highly knowledgeable. CDI also serves as a resource center where we can direct you to qualified professionals should that be desired. In short, we believe that groups like ours help to save lives. Sometimes just a welcoming smile and spoken kindness can be enough to assure someone (and maybe that’s you!) that they are not alone. For whatever reason each of us were dealt this hand from birth. For years many of us have considered it a curse. At CDI we believe that once liberated from the isolation of the closet that in time you will come to see your own transgenderism as a “gift”. So whether experienced or not, come - We welcome you, and we exist for you!

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  1. So happy your story is a positive one.


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