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Coming Out in the Workplace

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One of the hardest obstacles  trans-gender people have to face if they are living full time, or thinking about living full time, is employment.  When I came out, I had a lot of fear about how people would perceive me.  I work as a video editor in the television industry, talk shows in particular, and although the industry is very gay friendly, I wasn’t all that sure about how they would react to me  being transgendered.   I was however, and still am, extremely fortunate .  Not only were people accepting for the most part, they were surprising supportive, and continue to be.  This just doesn’t apply to talk shows. I have edited  for  ESPN’s “World Series of Poker”, a predominately straight male arena, which at first was a bit awkward, but after a week, I was just another editor was punctual and doing her job well.

I say this not to try to convince “ in the closet”  trans people to come out, but rather if you are thinking about it, that it doesn’t all end with discrimination and termination of one’s position.  You have to weigh the risks, and take a gamble sometimes. Thankfully, it paid off for me, and I am surrounded by loving co-workers who admire my courage.

And it’s not to say that I haven’t run across people who didn’t accept me or understand me, because I have.  In fact these were the people I have gained the most wisdom from.  I have found that  when I treated them with respect, and didn’t become combative,  sometimes times I was pleasantly surprised in their sift of attitude.  People  have a tremendous ability to adapt, as long as you keep an attitude of acceptance, forgiveness,  and patience, no matter  how negative their reaction.  This may not happen all of the time, but it happens, and it’s profound to see.   You may have the power to do this.  Not just with coworkers, but family and friends a like.  It may take time, but you may be pleasantly surprised!

Peace and love


About cdinyc2012

Crossdressers International Incorporated is a member-supported adult transgendered group focused on support and social activities, serving the New York City metropolitan area. CDI is qualified as a non-profit corporation under section 501(c) 7 of the federal tax code. In the beginning, as stated in “Our History”, our founders envisioned CDI to be an all inclusive, welcoming haven for those seeking to come to terms with their transgendered nature. While the majority of our members and friends identify as cross dressers, we have served as a refuge for those who identify as transsexual, drag queen, and gender queer as well. Historically, our focus has been on the m-f crossdresser/transgendered. However, we do welcome those who identify from the f-m experience. While many of our members are long time comfortable with their transgender identity, we have never lost sight that our basic mission is to stand ready to provide a welcoming sanctuary for those who are taking their very first steps of self discovery. We know from our own experience that this can be a frightening time for those who have been closeted. The fear of loss of family, friends, employment, and standing in ones community can be overwhelming. And all for merely being gender different. Even today in our changing times the fear of discovery, ridicule, and worse can be terrifying for those who are attempting to safely practice their gender expression. WE are here for you. We make no claims of being “expert” in any matters, yet through our individual and collective experience we are highly knowledgeable. CDI also serves as a resource center where we can direct you to qualified professionals should that be desired. In short, we believe that groups like ours help to save lives. Sometimes just a welcoming smile and spoken kindness can be enough to assure someone (and maybe that’s you!) that they are not alone. For whatever reason each of us were dealt this hand from birth. For years many of us have considered it a curse. At CDI we believe that once liberated from the isolation of the closet that in time you will come to see your own transgenderism as a “gift”. So whether experienced or not, come - We welcome you, and we exist for you!

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